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People tend to assume that the loss of a parent is more traumatic for a young child, and neglect to support adults experiencing it. But the reality is virtually everyone will experience losing a parent, and unfortunately, dealing with the grief is not discussed or researched often. The common result is that when the tragedy happens, the sufferer might feel detached and alone in their mourning. Not to mention, when their continues over a long period of time, their loved ones can become impatient, wishing the mourner would ‘get over it,’ oblivious to the deep impact of losing a parent at any age. However, experts agree that it’s important to recognize just how long-lasting the impact of the loss of a parent really is.


The Effects of Parental Bereavement

Studies have proven parental loss can have negative outcomes, mentally, emotionally, and physically. Of course, everyone experiences loss differently, and the effects can vary depending on the individual’s:

  • past experiences,
  • coping mechanisms,
  • relationship with the parent,
  • environment and culture,
  • and the circumstances of the death. (1)

Studies on Parental Bereavement

A 1970 cohort study examined over 11,000 participants to test the long-term effects of a parent’s death in childhood on adult life. They compared 1) orphans, 2) children from divorced or unstable families, and 3) children who lived with two, healthy parents. By age 30, the orphans had greater unemployment  rates— and even those who were employed worked at unskilled positions — than the other groups. They also had a higher rate of smoking cigarettes, along with symptoms of chronic depression, and a feeling that ‘they will never get what they want out of life.’ (2)

Another study was conducted to focus on the perspective and experience of the child. Through written entries or lengthy interviews, 37 participants aged 20–80 related their stories. The research found that in cases where the child lacked open communication, support, or stability in daily life during the mourning period, the long-term emotional damage was worsened. The effects of a death can last as long as 71 years, depending on the management of the grief. Proper support, communication, consistency in life can minimize the suffering. (1)

Gender may also be a factor to how a person experiences loss. A survey including 8,865 adults found that sons take the death of their fathers harder, while girls struggle more from the death of their mothers. (3)


To understand the process of grieving the loss of a parent, it helps to be familiar with the conventional stages of grief:

The Five Stages of Grief

  1. Denial – The sufferers are numbed and disbelieving of the situation.
  2. Anger – They blame others for their grief, and may act violently.
  3. Bargaining – They “negotiate with higher powers” to bring back loved ones.
  4. Depression – They feel overwhelming sadness, and no desire to socialize.
  5. Acceptance – They come to terms with their grief and begin to move forward.

People experience these phases in different orders and can skip or repeat some. It’s important to be aware of regular symptoms of grief; a prolonged grief disorder (PGD) is when the expected symptoms of grief continue for months after the death, and the patient has lost motivation and the ability to carry on with normal life.

Healing from Grief

If you have lost a parent, treat yourself with patience. Even if your loss happened years ago, remember to value your feelings – they are real. You can help to support your healing by considering some of these approaches:

  1. Interventions – Sometimes a sufferer won’t even consider treatment. Relatives and friends should make an effort to support the person and suggest help. The mourner is likely to refuse, and rationalize the prolonged mourning. A professional therapist can assist mediating an intervention. (4)
  2. Grief Counseling – This method addresses the emotions surrounding loss, and allows the patient to express them through role playing, trauma therapy, and cognitive behavior therapy. (5)
  3. Support Groups – Group therapy is a good way to communicate and share the painful experience, and to form meaningful relationships.
  4. Medication – For patients who suffer from clinical depression alongside grief, antidepressants can be helpful if prescribed by a doctor.
  5. Socialize – Connecting with loved ones is healing for mourners; other people can be a listening ear, or bring joy and comfort to them.
  6. Selfcare – Maintaining a healthy lifestyle can significantly diminish the urge begin unhealthy behaviors, like overeating, depression, and substance addiction. Remember to eat healthy, relax, meditate, and sleep 7-8 hours every night.
  7. Spiritual Healing – For religious people, turning to their faith and traditions can be therapeutic and comforting in a time of pain. (6)


  1. Jackie Ellis, Chris Dowrick, and Mari Lloyd-Williams. Journal of the Royal Society of Medicine. The long-term impact of early parental death: lessons from a narrative study. J R Soc Med. 2013 Feb; 106(2): 57–67. doi:  10.1177/0141076812472623. Published: February 2013. Accessed: November 7, 2017.
  2. Parsons S Long-term Impact of Childhood Bereavement: Prelimary Analysis of the 1970 British Cohort Study (BCS70) Accessed: November 7, 2017.
  3. Nadine F. Marks, Heyjung Jun, and Jieun Song. Death of Parents and Adult Psychological and Physical Well-Being: A Prospective U.S. National Study. J Fam Issues. Author manuscript; available in PMC 2009 Feb 10. J Fam Issues. 2007; 28(12): 1611–1638. doi:  10.1177/0192513X07302728. Published: February 10, 2009. Accessed: November 7, 2017.
  4. Intervention Support. Dealing with Grief. Accessed: November 7, 2017.
  5. Promises Treatment Centers. Grief and Bereavement Counseling. Accessed: November 7, 2017.
  6. MayoClinic. Complicated Grief. Published: Oct. 05, 2017. Accessed: November 7, 2017.

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