Jade Small
Jade Small
March 17, 2024 ·  3 min read

9 Tips on How To Keep A Man Happy and Present

It can be incredibly frustrating dealing with the lack of commitment we women so often face from potential partners. Sure, not everyone is worth sticking around for, but when you find that special person, what can you do to keep the relationship strong? You should never have to compromise who you are, but there are certain things you can do to ensure “the one” doesn’t get away. Here are 9 Ways To Ensure He Stays

1. Be Honest

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Honesty is a key component of any healthy relationship. Being honest builds trust between you and your partner and eliminates potential worrying (1). Being open with your partner will most definitely be appreciated (2).

2. Keep Your Sense of Humor

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Having a good sense of humor makes you easy to be around and more attractive to men (2). Having a little lightheartedness in your relationship keeps your love life balanced (3). Try your best to keep a positive attitude even if the situation isn’t ideal (2). After all, laughter is the best medicine.

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3. Let Your Intelligence Show

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Debates around whether men like intelligent women have been going on for decades, but one study has put the naysayers’ opinions to rest and officially confirmed that men do indeed love intelligent women.

The review conducted by researchers at Northwestern University and the University of Innsbruck found that modern men are increasingly valuing brains over beauty in long-term partners (4). Don’t shy away from using your wits and intelligence to keep your partner intrigued.

4. Be Caring and Affectionate

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One of the best parts about being in a relationship is the care and affection you receive from the other person. Both parties crave this kind of attention and men love women who aren’t afraid to show their concern (2). Let your guard down and truly show him you care.

5. Have Confidence

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Confidence is one of the most attractive qualities a person can have. Men love confidence in women and having it is crucial to a successful love life (2). If your confidence has been knocked lately, don’t let it get to you. Remember, you’re always enough!

6. Keep Calm, Cool, and Collected

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Keeping your cool in heated situations is a super desirable quality to have. Not only is it a good look, it’s also very powerful (2). Being mindful when getting into arguments instead of reacting on impulse will ultimately end up saving your relationship (5).

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7. Be Supportive

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It can be hard for men to open up, so make sure you’re supportive of your partner’s ambitions (2). Studies have found that supportive relationships are one of the two critical factors involved in living a long, happy life (6). Be sure to let your man know you’ll always be there for him no matter what.

8. Be Romantic

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Don’t let the romance fade away after the honeymoon phase. Flirting with your partner and doing spontaneous, fun activities will keep him around (2). Romantic gestures also go a long way, no matter how small or simple they are.

9. Don’t Be a Blabbermouth

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Men appreciate a woman who can keep a secret as it shows that you are trustworthy (2). You don’t want to jeopardize the chance of him being vulnerable with you again in the future so keep secrets just between the two of you.

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  1. (1) Goldsmith, B. (2014, November 5). Honesty Can Make or Break a Relationship. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/emotional-fitness/201411/honesty-can-make-or-break-relationship
  2. (3) Goldsmith, B. (2015, February 17). In Love and Life, Keep a Sense of Humor. Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/emotional-fitness/201502/in-love-and-life-keep-sense-humor
  3. (4) Your brain may be what interests that guy checking you out. (2016, February 10). Retrieved from https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2016/02/160210170618.htm
  4. (5) Brandt, A. (2015, August 4). 3 Steps to Keeping Your Cool (and Saving Your Relationships). Retrieved from https://www.psychologytoday.com/ca/blog/mindful-anger/201508/3-steps-keeping-your-cool-and-saving-your-relationships
  5. (6) Taggart, A. (2013, May 3). The Importance of Supportive Relationships. Retrieved from https://www.resilience.org/stories/2013-05-03/the-importance-of-supportive-relationships/